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We don’t all need the same things in our lives, at the same time. Sometimes I’m ready to pursue a new project, and other times, I’m dead tired and in need of rest.

While the goal of this community is to help you reflect on one topic each week, some week’s will speak to your unique needs more than others.

This week’s intention

Below you’ll find a list of links to recent posts so you can decide which one best fits your desire for this week.

What are you in need of?

Take a moment to read the list and then follow the link to set your chosen intention.

I need…

Please reach out to me if there’s something you need this week, but don’t see it listed above. I know it will inspire a future post.

And be sure to sign up for my newsletter, if you haven’t already, as the next quarterly issue (Spring!) comes out on Wednesday. We all get way too many emails so I only send four newsletters a year. But those four are really good!

See you soon.


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WORKING WHOLE: How to Unite Your Spiritual Beliefs and Your Work to Live Fulfilled 

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Who do you turn to when you need advice? Often times we seek guidance from others, but expertise and insight are things we all have.  The hard part is taking the time to connect with, listen to, and then trust our own wisdom.

My first book, Working Whole was published six days ago. It’s a book about how to unite your spiritual beliefs with your work. Last week especially, I’ve had to be deliberate about taking my own advice so I could live and work with surrender and patience. I had to keep reminding myself, several times a day, to trust the process.

The more important the lesson, the easier it is to forget.

Frequently we can be the same supporters and counselors to ourselves that we are to other people. When we are struggling with an issue or to live out the things we deeply believe, we need to pause to seek our own internal wisdom. If you are like me, many of the hardest experiences of your life have taught you important lessons that deserve to be remembered.

This week’s intention

This week, pause to consider if you are listening to yourself and taking your own advice? What are the things people seek your advice on and how well are you heeding your own instructions? Do you encourage others more than you encourage yourself?

My intention is to take my own advice.

If you journal, take some time to list out what you “know for sure” or frequently advise others on. How well are you integrating those ideas into your own life? Do you offer yourself the same level of grace, love, and support as you advise others to give themselves? If not, make time this week to be still so you can pray and mediate on your ability to trust and implement the things you already know to be true.

See you next week!


Working Whole is available on Amazon and all major online book retailers.

WORKING WHOLE: How to Unite Your Spiritual Beliefs and Your Work to Live Fulfilled 

#workingwholebook


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You know how to spot and critique your failures; you track the things you messed up on, never got done, or haven’t gotten done yet. But what about your successes in life? Are you paying attention to the times when you get it right?

As many of you already know, my first book will be published tomorrow. It’s called WORKING WHOLE: How to Unite Your Spiritual Beliefs and Your Work to Live Fulfilled. This book is the culmination of four years of work (five, if you count the year I didn’t do anything except chastise myself for not getting started). What has held my attention over the last few years are the things that delayed writing, editing errors, and failed marketing efforts. But what should be holding my attention, this week especially, is the reality that something that didn’t exist previously—now does. No matter what happens next, that is worth celebrating.

We will never reach a final destination called “success”, so we better celebrate whenever we can.

This week’s intention

I’ll be quick this week, but celebrating our wins (big or small) is something that many of us need to spend extra time reflecting on.

My intentions is to recognize and celebrate my contributions to the world.

What have you used your talents and precious labor to create? This doesn’t have to be a tangible thing, like a book. It can be a work idea or volunteer project that you brought to fruition, a coworker that relies on you to keep them sane and competent, students you have taught and inspired, or clients that are better off because they interacted with you. What have you done well recently and have you really taken the time to celebrate it? If not, do it this week.

Cheers and see you soon!


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Nine years ago in the winter of 2010, I was going through a divorce. It was by far the hardest transition of my life. Sure, I left home for college and that was a difficult adjustment. Joining the workforce was also hard and motherhood changed me forever. But my divorce wasn’t a new adventure; it was a storm of anxiety, financial hardship, and shame.

More than anything else, getting through that time in my life toughened me up and taught me that my failures might lead to new and better dreams. But I’m also less afraid when pursuing these new goals because I’ve failed plenty in my life already—and it’s turned out just fine.

Your next plan might just be the better plan.

This week’s intention

“You can only go halfway through the darkest forest before you are coming out the other side,” or at least that is what the Chinese proverb says. I don’t remember exactly when I got to the middle of my dark forest and crossed over to the start of my new life. But if you happen to be stuck in the middle of a tough time right now, know that you may soon find yourself coming out on the other side as well.

My intention is to trust that my current situation is not permanent.

So this week, let’s pray for those going through a major storm in their life. If that is you, pray for yourself and pray for the ability to dream new dreams about what might come after this storm. If you’re not going through a storm right now, pray for those who are, reach out and check on them, and lend a helping hand wherever you can.

See you next week.


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Wouldn’t life be a whole lot easier if our daily activities were clearly marked as “practice” or “game time?” Athletes know when they are practicing and when they are playing in the actual game. Real life doesn’t work that way.

We tend to take our everyday moments of practice and constantly hold ourselves to the same standard as game day. We expect to excel at all times and feel disappointed when we aren’t prepared, make “rookie mistakes”, are in a period of recovery, or just fail to meet the mark. Yet we would never expect an athlete to be ready to perform at a high level without practice, and we shouldn’t expect it from ourselves.

The purpose of practice is to make mistakes and build skills.

This week’s intention

In my experience, what keeps people from hearing their callings more than anything else is a fear of practice. We want to pursue things we are already good at. We want to show the world our fully-developed abilities and are only willing to consider the paths we are skilled in.

My intention is to welcome opportunities to follow new callings and practice skills I do not have yet.

This week, place your attention on welcoming an uncomfortable opportunity to learn a new skill. Pray and mediate on your ability to feel spiritually whole enough to risk being seen in your moments of practice. Journal about your willingness to pursue things you are not good at, yet.

Are you being called to new levels of leadership, public speaking, art, counseling, educating, writing, or some other expansion of your skills? Are you willing to practice these skills so you’ll be ready when a big opportunity comes?

Play well and see you next week!


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“Just be yourself.” Adults frequently say this to the children we love.

And we want them to take our advice and bravely grow up without losing the parts of their natural disposition and personality that we know to be unique, God-given, and sacred.

Yet they may find themselves rejected simply from taking our advice. They may boldly express their gifts only to be labeled as bossy, nerdy, silly, stupid, too loud, weird, or uncool in some other way.

When this happens to the children I love, I get angry. I beg them to not let anyone define how they show up in life. Deep down, what I really want is for them to never have to face rejection again. But I know that’s not how life works.

Rejection will happen and it will hurt.

This week’s intention

As adults, rejection hurts just as much. I still fear it and maybe you do too. I cringe at the idea that I might put my true self out into the world only to be judged or ridiculed. But my greater fear is that I will become too afraid to follow my callings because I’m trying to avoid rejection from the people I’m not meant to serve.

My intention is to accept the real and natural fear of rejection, but pursue my highest work anyway.

This week, I want you to journal and pray about your relationship with rejection. What are some of your earliest experiences with it? How did that shape who you are today? Does fear of rejection stop you from fully revealing and/or using any of your gifts? What does the world lose when you hold yourself back?

See you next week!


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If there’s a secret to offer negotiation, it lies in your ability to be strong and ask for what you want. The candidate with the longer list of requests may only get half of them, but still end up with a lot more than the person that only asked for one thing (or worse, didn’t ask for anything).

Do you feel comfortable asking for what you want at work? Are you comfortable asking for more money in a job offer or a business deal? Do you ask for the work assignments you’d enjoy most?

How about asking for something personal? Are you comfortable asking a friend to check on you more? Are you comfortable telling someone when you don’t want to volunteer, or go to their event, or eat what they cooked?

All of these things are tied together, as our work and our personal lives often are. Your ability to see and be honest about what you want dictates what you ultimately receive and how you experience your life.

You will not feel powerful, if you never use your power.

This week’s intention

This week, I want to encourage you to pray and meditate on your power.

Pay attention to any opportunity you have to be honest about what you want. I’m not talking about making ultimatums or nagging. Asking for what you want is a simple exercise of voicing what is true for you, without demands or expectations.

My intention is learn how to connect with, respect, and voice my truth.

Do you want to attend that training your colleague took a few months ago? If so, tell your boss.

Are you overloaded with tasks in the office or at home and in need of additional support? If so, don’t keep it to yourself.

Do you want to change roles at your company? If so, tell your mentor.

Do you hate your job? If so, tell your spouse, your financial advisor, or yourself in the mirror. But use your power to voice what is true, because you cannot find your way to your authentic life if you aren’t seeing clearly.

Be strong and see you next week!


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Winter is the time when it appears as if nothing is growing; we’re all just trying to survive. But actually, winter plays a key role in new life. In the coldest months, the potential for growth and greater resilience are already incubating and developing below the surface. No winter—no spring.

As you may know, my winter newsletter focused on the kind of inspiration you can find during the most dormant times of your life—the seasons in between one old plan and your next new one. Specifically, it explored the power to find inspiration from words.

“Our theme for this season centers on the miraculous power of words—where we find them, which ones inspire our work, and how we use them to shape our new reality.”

This week’s intention

I hope you’ve enjoyed the newsletter (especially the video, podcast, and book recommendations). If you’d like to sign up, you can do so here. But either way, I wanted to highlight this winter’s exercise as a first step for anyone needing to rebound from disappointment and/or create a new plan for the season ahead.

My intention is to actively look and listen for inspiration.

Searching for and finding a quote, scripture, book passage, or poem that uniquely speaks (or even calls) to you during this season of your life will open your awareness to your deeper needs. Below is our winter exercise along with my 2019 quote. I hope that you will set an intention to actively look and listen for your own.

Your 2019 Quote

As you explore the world of words, be on the lookout for a quote that fits your deepest desire for how you will be shaped by 2019. I’ve been looking for mine for several months in every book, online article, Instagram quote and podcast that came my way. I found several strong contenders, but knew this was the one the second I read it.

“The moment that you feel that just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.”

–Neil Gaiman

I feel naked just from sharing my quote with you. It reveals what I’m hoping for, but also what I’m struggling with. And that’s the point. That’s the work that is calling me in this season—to get comfortable exposing my heart. What’s calling you? What’s your quote? Please reach out and share. I’d love to hear from you.

See you next week!


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I’ve spent a lot of time on planes this month and I board with a plan. I hope to take a nap, followed by working, eating, and reading. As a last resort, I may watch an inflight movie. To execute the plan, I need to know what music puts me to sleep. I bring one meal and several snacks. I have plenty of water with me at ALL times. I know what I like to read and what type of work tasks to focus on.

Those are the things I plan for. But here’s just a few of the things I can’t control:

  • Who will be sitting next to me and will they want to talk?
  • Will the people seated around me need to get up and potentially wake me?
  • Will I have a chatty flight crew that is on the overhead speaker frequently?
  • Will there be a crying baby behind me (or next to me), a kid kicking my seat, or even grown-ups being loud for no good reason?
  • How often will the seat belt sign be off so I can go to the bathroom?
  • Will the wifi work for the entire flight (even over the mountains) so my emails will go through?
  • Will there be turbulence that makes me too dizzy to work, read, or watch a movie?

So you get the picture, it’s a decent plan but there are a ton of things that might derail it. This happens to me on long flights, but also in just about every area of my life—from daily logistics to parenting to work. I’m a planner, but my plans don’t shield me from surprises and disappointment.

Your existence is more important than any failed plan.

This week’s intention

When my plans aren’t working out (especially important personal or professional plans), I tend to blame myself. Yet, that is neither productive nor a realistic assessment of how life works. Planning is a key part of preparation, but life is ultimately beyond our control. On the occasions when life rejects my plan, I’m learning to sit in my discomfort and accept it. I know that I tried my best and my challenge is to let the plan go without feeling like a failure. I have to surrender to the lessons I’m here to learn and the experience I’m having.

My intention is to be kind to myself when life is not working out as I planned.

So this week, we are going to set an intention to be compassionate to ourselves when our best laid plans don’t work out. We are going to work to limit the mental anguish we inflict on ourselves, making a bad situation even worse.

Next week, we’ll talk about how to rebound and start again. But for this week, just pray and meditate on your intention to be kind to yourself and know that as long as you have life in your body, you can and will bear this disappointment. You will get to the other side of whatever failure you might be enduring right now, learn a few things, and have time to plan again.

Take care and see you next week!


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When loss strikes close to home, I find myself waking up from the fog of routine life and remembering just how precious the people around me truly are. Over the past week, I’ve been walking through the world more connected to my heart than usual. This feeling prompted me to spend time during a snowy weekend at home going through old pictures and cherishing each memory. Some of the people in my pictures are no longer living which made those memories more meaningful, and painful at times. But my yearning for the past also reminded me that I still have a huge opportunity to love.

Reflecting on the past can remind us to appreciate the opportunities of the present.

This week’s intention

I won’t get another shot at directly expressing love to my grandfather, that childhood friend that died tragically, or countless other people I’ve lost. Our only opportunity to express love is with the living so we have to take our chances while we have them. Oddly enough, the private and personal act of expressing love impacts our work life as well. Everything in our lives will be better and more powerful when we are loving as hard as we possibly can, to include our work.

My intention is to use the present moment to express love.

This week, take a moment to cherish your loving memories. Notice how pure they feel. Notice how precious routine interactions in the past are to you now. And take that understanding into the rest of your week. Reach out to the people you love and tell them how you feel. Don’t wait and don’t consider it a waste of productive time. Love fuels the human spirit from creativity to capacity to stamina. Adding loving tasks to your to-do list will be time well spent.

See you next week!


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